you marry a man, you must be sure you can submit to him! If you think
there is a problem, don’t get married! Not to submit to your husband is
sin. Husbands, a boss is not a dictator or slave driver. Who does the
dishes? You should have an agreement before marriage. You need to talk
about who does what. As the husband, I am ultimately responsible for the
decisions made. I am ultimately responsible for where we live, how we
spend our money, where our boys go to school, etc. If my wife and I
disagree on my decision or her decision, we talk about where we stand. I
need to fully understand her reasoning. But ultimately, I have the
I. Who is the Boss in a marriage?
"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing."Ephesians 5:22-24
"And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord." Colossians 3:17-18
aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness,
not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,  To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."Titus 2:3-5
"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;  While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear." 1 Peter 3:1-2
"For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:" 1 Peter 3:5
II. How was Jesus the Boss?
Did Jesus go around ordering His disciples in a rude way? No
Did He sit back and do doing while directing His disciples? No
Did He call His disciples rude names? No
Did He hit them if they didn’t obey Him? No
Jesus led by example.
So, how did Jesus lead His disciples?
led His disciples by serving them! Why? By serving which is the same as
taking care of them, they knew He loved them. They would see His love
in action. They knew He had their best interest in mind. They knew he
was concerned about them. Jesus put them first.
The following verses give examples for the Christian husband to follow:
call me Master and Lord: and ye say well; for so I am.  If I then,
your Lord and Master, have washed your feet; ye also ought to wash one
another's feet.  For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you.
 Verily, verily, I say unto you, The servant is not greater than
his lord; neither he that is sent greater than he that sent him.  If
ye know these things, happy are ye if ye do them."John 13:13-17
"And he sat down, and called the twelve, and saith unto them, If any man desire to be first, thesame shall be last of all, and servant of all." (Mark 10:31, Luke 13:30)Mark 9:35
III. How Should the Husband be the Boss?
Every husband must follow Jesus example while He was here on earth (1 Peter 2:21), so read the Gospels.
Every husband must be lead of the Holy Spirit, not by his flesh.
husband must led His wife by serving her! Why? By serving
which is the same as taking care of her, she knows you love her. Kissing
her first, cooking or/and washing dishes without being asked,
vacuuming, cleaning the bathroom, always helping her with her coat,
chair, door, etc. She sees your love in action. She needs to know you
have her best interest in
mind. She needs to knew you are concerned about her. Once she knows your
love, you may not need to ask her to do something it may already be
"And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient," 2 Timothy 2:24
"Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.  The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.  Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency." 1 Corinthians 7:3-5
"Let the husband give due kindness to the wife, and likewise the wife also to the husband. 4 The wife does not have authority of her own body, but the husband. And likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife. 5Do not deprive one another, unless by agreement for a time, that you may be free for fasting and prayer. And come together again on the same place, that Satan may not tempt you through your incontinence." Jay Green’s Literal Translation1 Corinthians 7:3-5
"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,  That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:  For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.  Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband." Ephesians 5:25-33
"Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." Colossians 3:19
"That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience." Titus 2:2
"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.  Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:  Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.  For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:  Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.  For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.  And who is he that will harm you, if ye be followers of that which is good?"1 Peter 3:7-13
"But he that doeth wrong shall receive for the wrong which he hath done; and there is no respect of persons." Colossians 3:25